Man Tells Ex’s Family Real Reason for Breakup. AITA for Spilling the Beans?
Breakups can be incredibly difficult to navigate, especially when dealing with the aftermath and the inevitable questions from family and friends. Sometimes, the need for closure can lead to unexpected revelations, stirring up more drama than intended. This is the situation a man found himself in after his relationship ended, which he decided to share on a popular AITA post.
He wrote:
People were quick to share their thoughts.
Right_Bee_9809 wrote:
NTA This really has nothing to do with you. This is an issue that your ex needs to handle with her family, especially mom.
Particular_City_7900 wrote:
It’s not your job to lie to her family. Block your ex.
oldwitch1982 wrote:
Bingo. Who wants to have a family with a woman who lies to family???
HarveySnake wrote:
NTA As long as you didn’t lie, exaggerate, omit important details, or otherwise misrepresent what happened then you were honest. If the truth is a problem for your ex that’s her problem not yours.
Motor_Ad_2317 (OP) wrote:
I’m trying to tell myself that it was for the best. I definitely did not meet her expectations on paper, and if I had, she might have married me just to have children. I think we love each other as friends, but I don’t think she had as much of a romantic interest in me.
realfuckingoriginal wrote:
And she didn’t want yet another dependent, so accept the incompatibility and move on. You sound more upset that you’re being forced to give up your nice funded lifestyle than you do about the actual girl. Let it go.
Tranqueenlity wrote:
As an Asian myself, yes she does have familial obligations, and you sound like another burden to her, so she had reasons to break up with you. You have to understand her perspective as well, but you’re NTA for telling her parents the truth behind the breakup.
chudney31 wrote:
NTA for telling the truth. But come on. You’re not career focused? What does that even mean? Dude, figure out something, trade school, whatever, and better yourself.
Klutzy-Run5175 wrote:
NTA. Your ex was also NTA by the way! It’s totally OK to not want to be the primary breadwinner for your entire life!
Intelligent-Bat1724 wrote:
Ah ha… so she’s moving back in with her parents. This is cultural. Not anything personal against you. However, she should have been straight and told you the truth about her family situation.
Similar_Corner8081 wrote:
NTA. You told the truth but damn you’re 30 years old and relied on someone else to take care of you. Why is it when a man is with a woman because of her money, he’s not called out for being a gold digger?
No-Ratio-1361 wrote:
NTA You told the truth.
LA-forthewin wrote:
NAH, you told the truth, your ex was honest about her expectations, better that she broke up with you than marry you and resent having to bear the financial burden of the family.
Disastrous_Day5111 wrote:
You are not going to live off $16 an hour. Nta but go get a better job, wtf.
Rough_Theme_5289 wrote:
NTA, she your ex wasn’t wrong though.
Chaoticgood790 wrote:
NTA you told the truth. It’s not your job to lie to her family. Block your ex
Kampfzwerg0 wrote:
NAH It sucks. But if she wants to stay home with the baby it’s understandable that she wants someone who earns money and can support the family. Don’t feel bad. Go and find someone who is a better fit.
Equivalent-Grab-5566 wrote:
YTA There was no reason for you to tell her mother anything. The reasons you broke up were fair, she didn’t horribly wrong you. It sucks she didn’t communicate before the end, but it does not make you acting out of spite right.
