When a guy says he needs you, it can be exciting.
However, there are times when saying “I need you” is just another way of not committing to the relationship.
This article will explain what it means when a man says he needs you and whether it is good or bad.
So, what does it mean when a guy says he needs you? When a guy says he needs you, it’s because he can’t see himself living without you. He loves you and he wants to be with you always. Whether it’s for romantic reasons or just friendship, he feels that you are an important part of his life.
However, this sort of statement can mean so many different things, depending on the person and what context he uses the term in.
Therefore, in this post, we’ll go over the most common ways this terminology is used, and what each of them means.
So then you’ll know for sure why he says it.
What Does It Mean When A Guy Says He Needs You?
Keep reading for a list of the most common reasons!
He Wants To Be With You
When a guy says “I need you” it’s because he wants to be with you and really get to know you more.
Saying “I need you” is not always romantic like in the movies, but it is definitely proof that he wants to be with you.
And that’s the most important part.
When a guy says “I need you” listen to what he isn’t saying just as much as what he is saying.
And if he isn’t saying it then you should take the initiative and tell him that you need him too.
He’s Feeling Lonely
Another reason why a guy might say “I need you” is because he’s feeling lonely, or his life is not as fulfilling as he’d like it to be.
This is a HUGE issue in long-distance relationships because, without touch, it is so much harder for both of you to feel fulfilled.
If he feels lonely, he may well start to rely on you for validation, which can be very dangerous to your relationship.
When you are not physically with each other, there is a realization that “this is not real.”
As I mentioned before, guys don’t say things they don’t mean.
They have a hard time expressing themselves so they speak with their actions.
Some guys might say they need a girl because it’s a way of expressing how much she means to him.
However, it’s important to not read too much into this statement.
It doesn’t mean that the guy wants a serious relationship.
He might just need a friend or a shoulder to cry on.
You’re His Best Friend!
A guy who tells you he needs you can also be telling you he wants to be your best friend.
His saying that doesn’t mean that he wants to be your boyfriend.
He just wants to be the guy that you share your deepest secrets with.
He wants you to trust him and feel comfortable opening up to him.
He wants a bond that goes deeper than any friendship.
And he wants you to be that person that he can trust and depend on for comfort and support, just as you would want from him.
Here are a few examples:
- When he says he needs you, he’s also saying that he wants you to be there for him, for all his ups and downs.
- He wants to be able to lean on you whenever he feels weak.
- He wants to be that friend who will sit with you in the movie theater saying not a word while you cry your eyes out.
- He wants to be the shoulder you cry on when your heart gets broken for the first time.
- He wants to be the friend you call in the middle of the night because you can’t sleep.
- He wants to be the one you turn to when you’re mad at your parents.
You Make Him Feel Good About Himself!
He feels like he is worthy of your time and your attention.
He feels like he has something to offer you that you want or need.
He feels confident that you find him attractive, interesting, and intelligent.
He feels that you are there for him…
Not just there, but “there” for him.
He feels like you care.
It doesn’t have to be in words…
It can be in the way you listen, in the way you touch him…
In the way, you just seem to understand him.
It can also be in the way you call, the way you show up, the way you pull him in when he pulls away.
It can be in the way you are there when he needs you.
You Make Him Feel Invulnerable
He feels like you will be there for him and support him, and perhaps even protect him.
He feels like he doesn’t have to be afraid because he knows you will be there, and that you will provide the comfort and security that he needs.
Of course, the only way to get that feeling of security is to have your partner validate it.
Because you give him that feeling, he feels he can do anything with you.
He feels like he can be himself and that there will be no repercussions for it.
He feels like you’re always going to be there, and that he can’t lose you.
Therefore, he feels like he can conquer the world because he will always be safe and secure in your arms.
You Are The Rock That Keeps Him Grounded
He feels like he can lean on you and depend on you as a solid foundation for him to build his life upon.
He knows that as long as you are in his life, he can go as far as he wants in his career or business because he will have your support every step of the way.
In fact, he sometimes wishes he were as secure as you are so he can have as much confidence as you have.
He admires the fact that you have a solid head on your shoulders and that you know how to handle things in a practical and efficient way.
While he’s thinking about his goals, aspirations, and future together, you are already there with him.
- You are supporting his dreams without even knowing it.
- When he needs encouragement, you are there for him.
- When he needs to be bolstered, you are there for him.
- When he needs support, you are there for him.
- You are his rock, his foundation.
- You are his solid base.
When you’re having fun and enjoying life, it will rub off on him and he’ll begin to want to enjoy life more and look forward to doing things with you.
He’ll feel like he’s always got a great date with you because you’re always fun and exciting.
He’ll realize he has someone he can lean on and depend on in hard times and will want to be with you because you make him stronger and happier.
He doesn’t feel like he has to be the sole breadwinner in the relationship or that he’s the only person in the relationship that’s holding everything together.
He feels like he has someone that he can trust, who he can lean on, and someone who has his back.
You Don’t Judge Him.
You don’t look at him as though he is lower than you.
You don’t believe that you are the only special person in the world and he is just a means to an end.
You think he is as close to perfect as a man can be, even if you know that he is a flawed person.
- You don’t constantly criticize him.
- You don’t try to change him.
- You don’t try to manipulate him.
- You let him be himself.
- You accept him as a person.
- You love him as a person.
- You love him for who he is, as a man, as a human being.
Knowing exactly what a guy means when he says he needs you is important.
It’s important to know how you make him feel, because the more secure he feels, the happier he will be with his life and the more motivated he will be to achieve his goals.
And of course, that’s what you want him to do, right?