Being around your ex can lead to confusing and difficult feelings.
One example is when your ex gets nervous or “flustered” around you.
While this is common, it can be upsetting to experience.
But what does it mean when your ex gets nervous around you? When your ex gets nervous around you it’s because they still haven’t adjusted to being separated from you. They may not want to admit that they still have feelings for you and that’s why they get nervous around you.
They might also feel a little awkward talking to you because their breakup was a little more painful than normal.
However, it can mean more than just that.
If your ex gets nervous around you it can be a sign of something more significant.
So, in this post, I’ll share with you a few reasons why your ex gets nervous around you and what it might mean.
5 Reasons Your Ex Gets Nervous Around You
#1: They Still Have Feelings For You
When your ex gets nervous around you it could be because they still have feelings for you.
It would make sense that a breakup is a little more painful for them if the breakup was mainly their fault.
Maybe they ended things because they were afraid of risking a commitment.
Maybe they broke up with you because you didn’t match their life goals.
Or maybe they found someone new and didn’t want to hurt your feelings by being honest with you.
The bottom line is that if your ex gets nervous around you it could be because they’re not ready to let go of you.
#2: They’re Still In The Dark About You
When your ex gets nervous around you, it’s a sign that they’re still not completely sure about you.
They’re so used to being around you, they’ve forgotten about their feelings for you.
It’s like they’re in this weird halfway point between the old relationship and the new.
Remember, it takes time for people to fully process a breakup.
They may not even realize that they still feel the same way about you until they’re around you.
And if that’s the case, then it’s like they’re in the middle of a struggle.
#3: Your Ex Is Afraid of What You Might Say
In this case, it’s because your ex is afraid that you might say something that will make them remember the pain caused by the breakup.
It could be something you said or did before the breakup.
Or it could be something that you said or did after the breakup.
Either way, your ex is afraid that you’ll come up with a sentence or two that will jolt them back to reality.
#4: Your Ex Didn’t Expect You To Be Doing Well
Sometimes, your ex will get nervous around you because they didn’t expect you to be doing so well.
For example, maybe they were expecting you to be struggling with your life or health.
Or maybe they expected to have to support you once again.
But since you’re doing better than expected, they’re taken aback.
This is going to make an ex-partner feel quite nervous and unsure.
#5: Your Ex Is Thinking About You Often
Sometimes, your ex can get nervous around you because they’re thinking about all the good times they had with you.
They may be reminiscing or daydreaming about the time they had with you.
Although this is a good thing, it can make them feel anxious due to remembering all of their old memories with you.
So if your ex sees you out of the blue, they may get nervous around you.
I call this the “lost puppy” look. It’s when your ex is trying so hard to hold back the tears, yet they give away their emotions.
What To Do When Your Ex Gets Nervous Around You
When your ex gets nervous around you, it can make you feel anxious or insecure.
But these feelings are normal and completely understandable.
So, don’t panic.
Instead, try to help your ex feel more comfortable.
Here are a few ideas you can try:
Stay calm and relaxed when you’re around your ex. If your ex sees that you’re being cool and relaxed, they’ll feel more comfortable too.
You can try to make jokes or small talk. Make this more about humor than anything else. It will help put your ex at ease.
Make sure your tone is positive around them. Don’t act melancholy or sad when you’re around them.
Your ex will pick up on this energy and it could make them feel uncomfortable.
If you’re not dating anyone else, tell your ex that. Be honest with them from the start.
Tell them that you feel nervous around them. If they’re willing to hear you out, they’ll feel more at ease.
I know it can be difficult to see your ex-partner feel nervous around you.
You may feel sorry for them or annoyed.
However, just realize that this is a sign that they still miss you and want to be around you.
At the same time, it’s a situation where you need to keep yourself grounded and not take it too seriously.
It will be up to your ex to decide whether they want to take the next step.
Whether you stay friends or not, remember that you can’t force someone to have feelings for you.
Like I said above, your ex will have to realize it on their own.